Your spouse will not give you happiness. Whoever marries to find happiness will be disappointed. Your spouse is not in control over your happiness now and never will be. You are responsible for your own happiness. No one can take that power away from you. What makes you happy now will make you happy later. What makes you sad now will make you sad later. Remember the last time you did something and it made you feel happy? That day when you laughed out loud, and thought to yourself, “I can’t remember the last time I laughed like that.” That is what really makes you happy. Cooking a healthy meal, baking a nice cake, putting on nice clothes, playing in the rain, reading a good book, singing in the shower, cuddling with the kids or helping someone out. Do it again. Do it often. Do it more. And then smile at yourself. Smile because it’s not your spouse who gives you happiness, it’s Allah. Though it would be nice to do it together.
Make du’a for your spouse, constantly. There is no greater support you could give each other than asking the Lord of the Worlds to help him/her in their earthly struggle. And when you have done that, ask him/her to make du’a for you too, for how beautiful is it that a couple remembers each other in their sujud, thanking and asking for guidance from the One who brought them together in the first place. Wouldn’t you love it for them to remember you in their prayers? Likewise, the opposite is true. Your spouse loves it when you remember them in front of The Most High, for you don’t love someone until you love what they love.